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A Valentines Love Letter To Ugly Ducklings

A Valentines Love Letter To Ugly Ducklings

My Valentine's Day Love Letter To Every Ugly Duckling Girl.

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Valentine's Day is upon us, and for many, this can be one of the worst days of the year.  All through grade school, I absolutely loathed Valentine's Day.  I wished that I could dig myself a tunnel deep into the earth so that I could hide from the world on that dreaded 14th day of February.  I was not one of the popular girls and I was not one of the "pretty" girls.  Year after year, I found myself boyfriend-less and alone, and being in public school on this holiday was completely miserable, depressing, and embarrassing.  I was an ugly duckling, and Valentine's Day was physically and emotionally painful for me.

If this description fits you as well, I invite you to read a love letter I have written to you.  Please read this love letter, because I wrote it just for you.

A Valentines Love Letter To Ugly Ducklings

Dear Beautiful Girl,

It is with tears that I write this love letter to you. 

I cry because I remember the pain of being unwanted, and I cry because I am saddened that you are having to endure the very same pain.  I know how deep feeling  unwanted can cut, and I know that this pain can get deep into your bones, and stay with you for a very long time.

I was just like you.  I was not popular.  I was not considered pretty. And I was not desired by boys my age.  Valentine's Day was always the worst day of the year, year after year.  It was embarrassing to not have flowers or gifts of any sort from boys.  It was embarrassing to have nobody to dance with at the Valentine's Day dances.  And it was embarrassing to end up in this state, year, after year, after year.  "What was wrong with me?"  I thought.  Was I simply so hideous that nobody could like me?  What was so bad about me? 

Eventually, you will grow numb from the pain.  Although you will be forever marked by your experiences, you will finally stop caring so much and stop trying so hard.  And without even realizing it, other parts of you will become stunning and gorgeous.  Your personality, broken from the pain, will become sweet and sensitive and caring.  You will develop a wonderful sense of humor.  Your skin will become thicker than it used to be, and you will stop caring so much whether people like you or not.  You will have more time to learn about what interests you and follow your passions, and your brain will grow big and strong.

You see, my sweet beautiful girl, there are many hidden benefits to being the girl that nobody wants.  In addition to developing a beautiful personality and mind, you will avoid many of the hidden risks of being beautiful at a young age. You will avoid being taken advantage of by immature boys who care more about their own lusts than your heart and well being.  You will avoid diseases and unwanted pregnancies that go hand in hand with fornication, lust, and premarital sex.  And your heart will be open to learning about a Being that loves you more than any man ever will.

This was my story too, sweet girl.  At 18 years of age, I found myself  severely depressed and lonely. I was in a state of total starvation - spiritually, emotionally, and even physically.  I was completely broken.  And in that brokenness, I learned about Jesus and His amazing love.  I read a book called "The Case for Christ" - you can view it here: The Case for Christ: A Journalist's Personal Investigation of the Evidence for Jesus (Case for ... Series), and after reading this book, I prayed for Jesus to forgive me of my sins, and come into my life and be my Lord and Savior.  What I experienced in the next few days is hard to describe.  

I wept, yes wept, for long periods for many days.  I don't know why I cried so much, but I think it might of had something to do with feeling an overwhelming love I had never felt before.  And I think it also had something to do with the death of sin and the defeat of demons that follow those with eating disorders, depression, and loneliness.  My eating disorder left me after accepting Jesus.  I went from having no appetite and eating very little, to having a healthy appetite and loving all food.  And something else happened after I accepted Jesus.  Soon after, I met the man who would become my husband, something I had wanted for as long as I could remember.

My husband is crazy about me.  He has helped me to see how beautiful I am, how wanted I am, and how lucky any guy is to have me.  Without even realizing it, I had blossomed from an ugly duckling into a beautiful swan.  And it had happened at the right time, in God's timing.  Those years of pain and heartache had helped me develop my personality.  They helped me develop a strong and determined mind.  They helped me develop a thicker skin.  And most importantly, those years helped me to find an awesome Savior, Jesus Christ, and a loving and all powerful Father, God. 

Dear beautiful girl, I write this love letter to you to tell you that I know what you are going through.  I understand the deep pain and loneliness you feel all the time, but especially on Valentine's Day.  I fully comprehend the emotional starvation you are experiencing.  And I cry with you.  

I cry because it is awful, and nobody should ever have to go through it.  But I also cry tears of happiness.  Happiness because I know that even without a man, you are already loved more than you know by a loving and mighty God, and by His Son, Jesus Christ, and by the Holy Spirit.  And God the Father and Jesus the Son and the Holy Spirit see you right where you are.  They see your hurt, and they know your pain, and they know all you have gone through.  And if you trust Them with your life, They will see to it that all things will work out for your good (Romans 8:28).  They will put you on a new path, a new life course, and They will restore the years the locusts have eaten (Joel 2:25).  God will bring you a husband at the right time, and this husband will end those years of loneliness and pain with his love.  And when this man falls short and lets you down, you will have the love of God and Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit right there shining on you, reminding you that you are worthy of love and worth more than the most precious jewels.

Beautiful girl, do not give up.  I have been where you have been, and I know how hopeless things can seem.  I know that your heart feels like a desert, devoid of life and nourishment.  And I write to tell you that things are not hopeless.  You will blossom in God's perfect timing.  Do not worry about belonging to a man, because you belong to Someone far better, you belong to God.  You are God's girl, and He has great plans for you.


P.S - If you are currently looking for a husband or trying to decide whether a boyfriend may be the "one", I highly recommend reading this fantastic article written by Rick Thomas: Open Letter to Any Girl Who Wants To Be Married.  I also wrote an article on this topic called, Husband Material Checklist To Prevent Future Heartache.

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